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By Nanette Keith, LPC-S LBSW CART
September 22, 2014
Category: Counseling
Tags: Parents   kids   children   parenting   helicopter  

What is a helicopter parent? It's a parent that constantly hovers over their child, making evey decision for them. Solving any problems the child encounters in life without letting the child learn how to deal with the problems themselves.

Someday your kids are going to need to figure things out for themselves. Wouldn’t it be unfortunate if they found themselves in a dangerous or tempting situation when they get their first opportunity?

Universities report that this is often the case. Young adults are known to speed dial their parents, hand the cell phone to officials and say, “Talk to my mom. She will straighten this out.”

Don’t pass up an opportunity to give your kids practice figuring things out for themselves while they are still young. It’s tempting in this fast-paced world to do things that kids could do for themselves. We’re pressed for time, and it feels so good to help them.

But, the bad news is that many parents pass up opportunity after opportunity to say, “I bet you can figure that out; Give it a try or I’ll be here later if you need some help.” Those parents put their kids at risk for believing unstated messages that say, “I have to do this because you’re not capable.”

Try this approach instead:    

Step One:  Empathize…

     “Oh, that must be so frustrating.”

Step Two: Hand the problem back to your child…

     “What do you think you are going to do?”

Step Three: Ask to share some ideas…

     “Would you like to hear what other kids have tired?”

Step Four: Give them some simple ideas and ask, “Will that work for you?”

     “Some kids decide………………….How will that work for you?”

Step Five:  Allow them to learn through trial and error.

Life lessons can be learned when making good and bad choices.

ResourceCare’s staff includes licensed professional counselors that can help with any family issues that you may be dealing with.

The basis for this article is the "Love and Logic Parenting Techniques".